The other evening, a girlfriend and I had dinner, and it was a thoroughly nice evening, marred only by an over-attentive waiter we just could not get rid of. At first it was funny and quite nice, it put us at our ease, etc, but after not very long it was just too much. He came back to our table too often, asked too many times how our meal was and if we wanted anything, and was just generally right in our faces for the early part of the meal.
Our approach was gradually to calm down our own interactions with him, not laugh and smile as much as we had at first, and keep our body language angled towards each other, looking up and making eye contact with him only minimally, all of which heightened the sense of an intimate conversation happening between girlfriends who did not want to be interrupted. He seemed to get the message eventually, but we had to be quite rude in order to shrug him off. Or was this a kind of middle class rudeness that only we would have noticed? Was there a simpler way to get him to back off?